|Calvin & Hobbes- Bill Watterson|
While there are those in the real world that behave this way, I'm actually thinking of the cyber-world. I've noticed, especially lately, that I have some of those. You know, the kind that re-posts all your finds, but makes sure he/she doesn't attribute them to you or even acknowledge it on your own page. This person is happy to lap up your loyalty and good will, but would never publicly take a stand for you. He/She only acknowledges your existence if it brings attention to him/her at an opportune moment. If, for example, your blog post takes off and it becomes the buzz of your small, shared cyber-world; that's when this person shows up, fawning over you, behaving as if you two have some shared secrets, a close relationship that really doesn't exist, and only because there's attention to be gained from it. They love to soak up the rays of sunshine, but if it's cloudy, foggy or misty in your neck of the woods, they're nowhere to be found. But, if the storms are coming their way, they fully want your total support and shelter. If they find themselves under attack, they fully expect you to be there- sword in hand- to slay their enemies for them. If you're in that predicament, you're on your own.
Do you have one or two of those?
Yeah, me too.
I acknowledge that people have busy lives, and that sometimes it's just the busy world, a large friend list, etc.. that could make one little more than acquaintance. That, I accept.
It's just that these FINOs tend to like to grab on to the attention given to others, and seek it out wherever they can find it. It's an interesting animal to observe- try not to feed them. They'll only bite that hand in the end.
Then, there are the most lovely of creatures called true FINDs (Friends in Name & Deed). These are the ones that make life fun, interesting and worthwhile. They are loyal, kind, caring, supportive and come in different shapes, sizes, colors, sexes, religious and political bents. When you least expect it, they surprise you with a word of encouragement or a message that says, "I thought of you today." They may not always reach out to you every single day (some do, which is awesome), but they're always showing up just when you need them most. Most of mine are great FINDs. I don't know what I'd do without them. You know who you are- most likely, you're reading this now. How do I know this? Because that's what a real FIND does- reads even the boring posts, not just the rants or the most popular ones.
So for all my lovely FINDs out there, I love you. I think you're amazing. I cherish everything about you and I value your friendship more than I could ever express in words. And, since we're not together, please give yourself a big hug for me. Thank you for being who you are.